The Love Of One's Fate
Amor Fati, the Latin phrase that nudges you to accept your fate and believe that whatever happens, happens for the best.
Dear Letter Opener,
Let's take a moment to think about this: How can we keep wanting more from life if we haven't truly appreciated or even acknowledged the good things we already have?
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Think about it. Why would the universe, a higher power, or anyone else want to give us more if we don't show genuine gratitude for what we already possess?
These questions carry a deep truth that goes to the core of our existence. Sometimes, in our pursuit of more, we forget to see and enjoy the beauty, abundance, and joy that already surround us. We become blind to the richness of our present reality.
Our constant craving for more is largely influenced by the world we live in. It's worrying how society has made it hard for us to be content, always reminding us of what we lack. And with social media, it gets even worse. We find ourselves changing moods with every quick video that shows us what we don't have.
Just a random thought—Have you ever felt like time is flying by faster than before?
What they don't tell you is that many of the things we think we need are actually just wants, created by big companies constantly bombarding us with ads for things we never really wanted in the first place.
You know the story: an expensive pair of sneakers here, a shiny watch there, and suddenly we're trapped in a world where we're always seeking more. We end up collecting stuff we hardly wear, use, or appreciate. It's like we're stuck in a cycle of accumulating things that don't bring us true happiness.
So, what's the point of wanting more? When will we ever reach a moment where we can say, "I'm content now, I have enough"?
As each day passes, I become more certain that this moment may never arrive. But this is not just about me—it's something many people can relate to. The desire for more is part of being human. Yet, it seems that in today's world, we lack the resilience and determination needed to work hard and pursue our dreams in order to finally possess the “more” we’ve always wanted.
And you know what's a big reason for that? Setbacks. We start off strong, ambitious, and motivated to change the world, until we face our first failure. Failure has a powerful impact—it can either shape us into who we're meant to be or drag us back into our old, mediocre ways.
Sadly, many people get stuck and give up, never able to move forward again.
One of the main reasons for this is a lack of acceptance and love for their own journey. There's a beautiful Latin phrase that encompasses what I’m on about and that’s Amor Fati - the love of one’s fate.
The Ancient Stoic Philosopher, Epictetus’ Tale
“Do not seek for things to happen the way you want them to; rather, wish that what happens happen the way it happens: then you will be happy.” — Epictetus
Epictetus, the wise philosopher who once lived as a slave, had an incredible encounter that unfolded like a captivating dialogue.
One day, a Roman nobleman of great wealth and influence approached Epictetus, seeking his guidance. The nobleman, burdened by a series of misfortunes and consumed by bitterness, poured out his heart, recounting tales of betrayal, loss, and unending setbacks. He believed that fate was conspiring against him, and he couldn't fathom finding a way out.
Epictetus, with his serene presence, listened intently to the nobleman's woes. After the nobleman finished venting his frustrations, Epictetus spoke with a calm and assured voice, piercing through the turmoil.
"You must learn to love everything that happens to you," Epictetus began, his gaze steady. "Yes, even the adversities. For within every challenge lies an opportunity for your benefit, if only you make use of it. Remember, nothing can harm you unless you allow it."
The nobleman's eyes widened in surprise, struck by Epictetus' bold statement. How could he possibly find love in his pain and misfortune?
Sensing the nobleman's skepticism, Epictetus continued, his words carrying a profound weight. "Life is not a series of random events meant to torment you. Every experience, whether favorable or unfavorable, is a thread woven into the grand tapestry of your existence. It is within your power to find meaning and purpose within every twist and turn."
Intrigued, the nobleman leaned closer, eager to understand more. "But how can I embrace such a mindset? How can I love my fate?"
Epictetus smiled, his wisdom shining through. "It is through the practice of Amor Fati, the love of one's fate, that true freedom and happiness are found. Embrace the circumstances that life presents you. Shift your focus from controlling external forces to mastering your own perception and response. That, my friend, is where your true power lies."
The nobleman pondered these words, feeling a spark of hope ignite within him. He realized that his suffering was not solely determined by the external events themselves but by his own resistance to them.
With renewed determination, the nobleman thanked Epictetus, promising to take his teachings to heart. He would strive to cultivate Amor Fati, to embrace every moment of his life, no matter how challenging.
And so, the nobleman embarked on a transformative journey, armed with Epictetus' profound wisdom. Through the practice of Amor Fati, he would navigate life's ups and downs with newfound grace, discovering a profound sense of contentment and purpose along the way.
Did his problems vanish right away? No.
Did he overturn his fate overnight? No.
Did life stop testing him? No.
It was only his perception that changed. And the most beautiful part about that is—it was the only thing that needed to change for his future to become better.
Amor Fati is not about being passive or resigned to one's circumstances. Rather, it emphasizes taking personal responsibility for one's thoughts, attitudes, and actions in response to life's events. It is about shifting focus from external factors that are beyond one's control to internal states of mind and finding inner freedom and happiness through the power of perception and choice.
It’s powerful and more importantly, needed today.
You must learn to love everything that happens to you, even the adversities. For within every challenge lies an opportunity for your benefit, if only you make use of it. Remember, nothing can harm you unless you allow it."
Marvelous words of wisdom. Wish people start to practice it.